Celebrating 100, We Come from Queens Commitment at it’s Finest
I woke up working like I’m Mexican
That mean I work from 10 to 10
Then 10 to 10, then 10 again
Nightmares of losing everything boost my adrenaline
These bars courtesy of Big Sean “10 2 10” always hit home. Often times, the hustle happens after clocking in X amount of hours at a job you love, hate, are neutral about – whatever the emotion it doesn’t stop the fact that through bloodshot eyes creatives are working on their passions all hours.
What makes the longer work day that much more enjoyable, though, is having a partner. The best friend by your side model does not work for all but for these two Afro-Latina Queens from Queens, 100 episodes in proves that they have the balance to stay true to themselves and produce amazing content as if no one is actually listening.
Recorded at the top of the year, I had a chance to revisit this recorded interview and chose to drop it to kick off December. Why? Well, timing is everything. While on their podcast, I promised to bring BrooklynButtah back but at a time when BrooklynButtah and I had not yet worked on things.
Nightmares of losing everything prevailed and discouraged me to my core. So much so, that even with a few interviews I couldn’t shake the self-doubt long enough to fathom transcribing an interview and then transforming it into a written piece.
I wanted to stick to my vow to the listeners of We Come from Queens and myself but couldn’t work myself up to it.
Cadacia and Monique are literal queens. BrooklynButtah salutes the opportunity to have a seat with the both of you at your table. If you are not yet familiar with their podcast, consider it a meeting of amazing minds grappling with a wide range of topics as girlfriends do when they meet up simply unload all of life’s happenings.
BrooklynButtah: When we first heard of your podcast we never thought it had anything to do with the borough Queens. Do you all get that a lot?
Monique: It depends on who’s listening or reading it. People from Queens gravitate to the borough first but then outside of that people gravitate to the Afro-identity I would say.
BrooklynButtah: What gave you ladies the idea to start this podcast? Did you see the podcast growing to where it is now?
Cadacia: So, when we first started out with the podcast I can’t even say we really had a vision for it. All we really wanted to do was have a YouTube channel to have these conversations. YouTube really didn’t work out for us because we realized we don’t have the time to meet up and record and all that. We were like, “ok we still want to have these conversations and allow other people to hear it,” so we started podcasting and as time went on through the recordings we still kind’ve felt like no one was listening – we’re just talking and this is great. As people started to engage with us we realized people are actually listening and are interested and are actually responding – talking back to us like we’re friends.
Monique: But it’s still like weird, and I’m saying weird for lack of a better word, that people we don’t know listen, engage, and like us. We’re just regular people. It feels good because we were like, “we’re just going to do a podcast.” We didn’t set out with the original intention to be like, we want to be the number one podcast. We just want to do this and have a good time doing it. We always try to treat it like no one is listening to a certain extent.
BrooklynButtah: Do you think that because podcasting has become so popular that when a lot of us go into it with the idea that I have to be number one it changes how we treat our craft?
Cadacia: We said this to you on our show, at the beginning of the year I was saying to Monique that I wanted to get back to the essence of who we are. Now, the podcast market is so very over saturated and what a lot of podcasts are doing is having guests and that’s a regular thing for them. A lot of podcasts are actually guest based while some of them really aren’t but they just do it because that’s the thing to do. I think its important that we knew what we wanted to do from the beginning and all we really wanted to do was continue to have conversations that we generally have and so I don’t think we’re seeking out to be number one we’re just seeking out to be better than what we’ve ever been. But in seeking that, we’re remaining true to our core, which is friends having conversations about various things.
Monique: When you’re creating with that intention that you have to the best I think that takes away from the purpose of what you’re doing. When you’re chasing after being number one you’re going to lose your integrity.
BrooklynButtah: We’ve always hated the question: “what do you do to achieve work life balance” because it simply doesn’t exist. Instead, we’ll ask, what do you do for your self-care that helps you achieve a moment of calm?
Cadacia: I’ve really been working on learning what self care looks like and feels like for me. It’s a variety of things. Self-care can be something as simple as me hopping in the shower, cleaning my body with this body scrub from Trader Joes and then once I get out the shower sit still without rushing to go and do anything or go anywhere. Just sit still and be in touch with my thoughts. Self-care can also be me going to get a massage that I bought off GroupOn or as simple as pouring me a glass of sparkling pink lemonade from Trader Joes, putting it in a champagne flute, lighting a candle and listening to some music. I’m learning a variety of ways to define self-care for myself and make sure I’m incorporating it.
Monique: I take self-care days from work. If you have a job that allows you to have vacation days or personal days, take it. Sometimes I may stay home or do something that I want to do. I try not to make myself feel guilty about that. I like going out and experiencing things by myself too sometimes so I might have a “doing too much” self-care day: take myself to breakfast, go to a museum by myself, then maybe go to the movies and I’ll be like “wow I love spending time with myself.” There’s different things that I do but all those help me reconnect and get back to myself. Like Cadacia, I see showers as being very disconnecting from the world.
Cadacia: She will not answer the phone if she’s getting ready to take a shower.
Monique: No I don’t. Yeah, and with that too, sometimes I put my phone on Do Not Disturb. Like in the mornings, I have a long commute for work and I keep my phone on Do Not Disturb. People know that I am awake at like 5, 6’o’clock but I’m not going to respond to your text message until like 9 o’clock because that’s when I take my phone off and look at everything.
BrooklynButtah: Do you think that, even with all of Instagram celebrating self-care, there’s still that stigma of guilt for taking that day off of work, for example?
Monique: I do feel guilty about it but I had to talk myself out of it because when my coworker calls out for whatever reason, she calls out, and I have to pick up and do whatever her work and responsibility is. I always feel guilty because in my head I’m like “I should just go in today because today is going to be this type of day and maybe ill just take off tomorrow” but then I’m going to get to work and be like “damn I should’ve just stayed home.” I’m in a groggy mood or will just wish I wasn’t there. Its kind’ve hard to not feel guilty but you have to talk yourself into knowing that you need this moment. Self-care is really such a trendy thing, as Cadacia said, I suggest you really just define it for yourself.
Learn more about Cadacia, Monique and their podcast We Come from Queens by subscribing wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’re in the New York City area, cop a ticket. to their upcoming event Dec. 15th in celebration of their 100 episodes.