5 Ways to Reset

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@just_bittenn:A fresh start can be fun; it’ll be difficult but that refreshing feeling is unmatched and much needed. It’s easy to start where you know; it’s scary to start where you don’t. To be able to hit “restart” is to be able to rediscover strength and accomplish shit you never knew you could.

As someone who has hit rock bottom and nearly said hello to the earth’s core during a dark stage of depression, let me be the first to say I am not an expert on all things positive. Nor am I an expert of pretending things are all good when they aren’t. 

The reality is, I have had some really, really bad days. Days where I didn’t want to get out of bed. I’ve also had some really good days where it felt like nothing could possibly stop my flow. Good days and good times are easy to manage. It’s that hard day that multiplies itself into hard times that’s hard to shake, hard to pause and hit reset.  

I’ve had a span of time that it felt like every time I took a step forward and was finally feeling a sense of relief, something happened that knocked me 10 steps back. 

How do you reset in order to keep going when you feel like everything was going wrong? 

1.    Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. It’s okay to be sad. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to feel what you feel. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings. We’re living in  a world that sometimes feels like you’re ungrateful if you don’t practice gratitude every single second of every day. Well I will be the first to say, practicing gratitude sounds wonderful until you can’t get out of bed and you have no desire to eat or shower. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, avoiding your feelings isn’t a good foundation to healing. Recognize these feelings are moments and remind yourself, no single moment defines you. 

2.    Find a way to release what you are feeling inside.Some people journal, some people exercise by way of running or jogging, others sing. Whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. I repeat do your best not to isolate yourself, this is when you need people the most. The people you love and you know love you are fuel for your reset. Allow them to be there for you to listen to your ideas and problem solve with you. If your insurance and budget allows, get you a therapist. Therapy is no longer taboo. If we can accept checking in on our physical bodies, we ought to be okay with checking in on our minds too. 

3.    Create a morning and evening routine to re-center yourself after a long day. Many people loathe the word routine. For them it brings up feelings of stress and anxiety or they think it’s straight up boring. However, when you have solid routines they provide the opportunity for you to collect yourself so you can reset at the beginning and end of each day. Most of us are unable to stop adulting when things go wrong. Morning and evening routines are more than self-care they are a self-check. 

4.    Envision your future.Whether you create an annual vision board or a monthly to do list. Literally see yourself there. This is important because it gives you something to work towards so you don’t give up. When you are in the thick of it, it’s hard to see beyond the day and that’s okay. Take it 30 minutes at a time if that’s the only way you can get through your day. Work your way up to 45 mins and then an hour and so forth. Keep your eye on the prize. This season will not last forever. Trust me, I know. 

5.    Write a letter to future self. Letters to self put so many things into perspective. This process is not only therapeutic, it allows you to temporarily envision yourself unstuck. 

It’s okay to have bad days. 

It’s also okay to start over and over again. 

Regroup and reset. 

 

 

Alley OlivierComment